Just heard a song played in a public transportation when I got back from a place. The title is “Don’t Say You Love Me”, sang by M2M. Actually, I just heard the chorus part of this song which sounded like this, “Don’t say you love me, you don’t even know me. If you really want me, then give me some time”. It was kinda slapping me. Lol. I don’t wanna talk about this, so let’s just move on to the points I want to share to you all.
This song originally talks about someone who is annoyed by the move another person made. She thinks that it’s just too fast to be true, for him to say that he loves her. Why? Because ‘he doesn’t even know her’. It’s kind of funny, at first, because I reflected it to myself. But then, I realized something. Why doesn’t she like being told that she is loved just because he doesn’t even know her?
I think.. it’s true. How can you say you love someone you just met? What is your basic thinking? Love is not just a word. Like John Mayer said, love is a verb. Love requires us to do something out of our comfort zone. Love means being self-less.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
For example, how can you be patient to someone whom you just got introduced by a friend? Have you really known whether you’re ready or not to be in patience with him/her all day long? It is a long journey, dear. Don’t say you love her when you’re just able to wait for her doing some make-up before you both are about to date. You don’t even know her.
I’d like to put my analyzing result about all of those love-verbs, but I have to do some kind of preparation before, so I will post it another day. I just want to say that… yes, love shouldn’t be said without understanding. Saying it means you’re ready to do those verbs. That’s why, let’s give it some time, to know each other. To know what kind of person you’re going to love. To ask yourself, ‘Am I ready to love her/him?’
Don’t sale the word ‘love’. It is not merely a word. It’s true that only God who truly loves us. Because He knows us so well. He knows our thoughts, our desires, our hearts. He deeply knows our strengths and weaknesses. He even knows our every single hair. He is ready to love us for He Himself, is love.
So, that’s how we being reminded to ask Him first about anyone we’re going to love. To ask Him, “Father, open my eyes wider to know him/her.”, “Father, I pray to hear her/his heart.”, “Father, am I ready to love this kind of person?” Or even… “Father, let me feel Your love more of each day so I can love this person the way You love me.”
I know, we’re loved to love too, so why thinking too much about this love word? But… have you ever experienced that loving people is not as easy as it sounds? Like… what if you have to face the ones that hurt you the most, then you remember that you have to love them? It’s hard, isn’t it? That’s why… do love with understanding. Love, and don’t bother, even if they don’t ‘love’ you back.
At the end, it’s all because love never fails.