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Pasangan Hidup dalam Tuhan, atau P.H.D.T.

*Maafin judulnya, ya.

*Iya, dimaafin, kok. 

Sebagian besar orang akan mengira saya sebegitu ‘berkeinginan’-nya untuk memiliki pasangan hidup dalam Tuhan. Sebagian lagi akan menyangka bahwa saya sedang ada di titik tergalau sepanjang usia saya. Mungkin hanya sebagian kecil yang memahami bahwa saya sedang mengejar suatu kebenaran mengenai pasangan hidup dalam Tuhan ini. Karena, bagi saya secara personal, memilih pasangan hidup sama halnya dengan memilih dengan siapa kamu akan melayani Tuhan, seumur hidupmu. Maukah memilih tanpa pertimbangan dan nasihat? Tanpa doa dan firman Tuhan? Tanpa kebenaran yang berperan sebagai mata air sekaligus muaranya?

Seperti yang sering ditekankan Salomo dalam Amsal, “kejarlah kebenaran”alasan utama saya terhadap berbagai kesukaan saya di paragraf pertama tadi adalah karena saya takut salah melangkah. Saya juga kuatir ketika kalau pun saya melangkah, saya melangkah tanpa arah dan tujuan. Dan ya, ketakutan dan kekuatiran ini pun terjadi karena saya memiliki pengalaman mengenai hal ini–suatu pengalaman yang sampai detik ini menjadi semacam trauma pelajaran bagi saya. Meskipun banyak orang beranggapan bahwa salah berarti kita telah mencoba–dan mencoba lebih baik daripada duduk-diam-tak melakukan apa pun, saya memilih beranggapan, kalau tahu yang benar, lakukanlah.

Dan kamu bisa bayangkan, ada berapa banyak ‘kebenaran’ yang harus kita ketahui? Banyak sekali; seluruh prinsip kekekalan Allah yang dituangkan-Nya di dalam Alkitab, dari awal sampai akhir. Tidak ada kebenaran sejati mengenai apa pun di dalam buku lain. Hendaklah kita tidak pernah meletakkan dasar terhadap apa pun selain di atas Tuhan Yesus melalui firman-Nya. Karena hikmat yang sejati diperoleh dari firman itu sendiri. Tidak dipungkiri lagi, hikmat itu pulalah yang menuntun kita kepada pemahaman dan pengaplikasian yang tepat dalam memilih pasangan hidup.

Kenapa sih perlu hikmat?

Karena hal mengenai pasangan hidup tidak punya formula yang berlaku sama bagi setiap orang. Tidak ada suatu rumus yang dengan berbagai variabelnya, dapat mengakomodir berbagai cara Tuhan untuk bekerja dalam dua orang yang dikehendaki-Nya untuk bersama selamanya. Dia terlalu kreatif untuk kita batasi dalam mengerjakan rencana-Nya. Semua ini penting untuk kita pahami karena pada hakikatnya tidak ada yang mengetahui dengan pasti setiap rencana Tuhan.

Bahkan, ketika kita salah, hal itu pun berada di dalam kontrol-Nya. Dia akan mengembalikan kita ke pilihan yang benar, yang sesuai dengan rencana besar-Nya bagi kehidupan kita, kalau kita mau membuka hati dan menaati-Nya. Masalahnya, kadang-kadang kita memilih mendengar ‘kata hati’ kita sendiri dan bahkan menaatinya pula.


Satu hal yang saya pelajari dari pengalaman saya berelasi jenis ini adalah, mengusahakan keutuhan diri sendiri di dalam Tuhan adalah hal yang penting. Definisi utuh ini pun banyak, bahkan interpretasinya bisa berbeda-beda bagi setiap orang. Saya sendiri, belum berani membahasakan pendapat saya tentang keutuhan ini; sampai di titik mana seseorang dapat dikatakan utuh, apa indikasinya, dan sebagainya.

Tapi, saya memiliki 1 kalimat yang mewakili segala kerumitan pendefinisian kata utuh tersebut; kebergantungan penuh kepada Tuhan. Orang yang utuh di dalam Tuhan adalah orang yang–apa pun kondisinya–selalu melibatkan Tuhan di dalam hidupnya. Melibatkan-Nya dengan sungguh-sungguh sebagai satu-satunya Pribadi yang benar; bukan melibatkan-Nya di dalam tanda kutip. ‘Melibatkan’ untuk mencari ‘pembenaran’ atas hidup yang dijalaninya sendiri.

Untuk bisa bergantung penuh kepada Tuhan, tentu kita harus mengenal dan mengalami Tuhan secara personal terlebih dahulu. Kalau kita tidak kenal dan mengalami Tuhan yang janji-Nya selalu ya dan amin, kita tidak akan mau bergantung pada-Nya. Manusia jarang mau meresikokan hidupnya pada apa yang tidak diyakini dan dipercayainya–dan bagaimana keyakinan dan kepercayaan itu bisa lahir kalau tidak ada pengenalan dan pengalaman bersama Tuhan yang mewarnai? Sebab, iman percaya kita timbul dari pendengaran firman Tuhan (Roma 10:17). Firman inilah yang memberi pengenalan yang benar akan Tuhan kepada kita.

Sehingga menjadi runutlah apa yang ingin saya utarakan di tulisan ini: pengejaran dan pengaplikasian kebenaran yang sejati secara terus-menerus adalah jalan seseorang menemukan pasangan hidup yang benar di hadapan Tuhan. Pasangan hidup yang bersamanya, kamu dan seisi rumahmu akan beribadah kepada Tuhan, seperti kata Yosua. Bersama dengan itu, kebergantunganmu yang penuh kepada Dia adalah jalanmu menjadi pasangan hidup yang benar bagi pasangan hidupmu di dalam Tuhan.


Kalau bisa langsung benar, kenapa harus salah?


Matius 6:33: Tetapi carilah dahulu Kerajaan Allah dan kebenaran-Nya, maka semuanya itu akan ditambahkan kepadamu.

No One Is Perfect

The first time I realized one of some things that is very important to me is when I was at my 2nd degree of Junior High School. That was when I listened to High School Musical’s soundtrack titled “We’re All In This Together”. I highlighted the “everyone is special in their own way, we make each other strong” part. It was a really good lyric to me at that time. Because I was the super perfectionist type of person back then, and when I listened to this song, it was such a deliverance to me, lol. You have to meet the old me so you’ll know that it’s tiring to be me and all my check-listed pieces towards situation and people–the time when I didn’t really realize that no one is perfect.

I disliked (yeah–dislike) mess. I can’t see a room or a table, or a place that is untidy, dirty, and yes, messy. When I was in elementary school, my school held The Best Class competition once a week. It’s not a kind of intellectual competition or something like that. It was about which one of all classrooms that is tidy and clean. They began their research when all the students had their break. So, before me and my classmates went out–you know, had our precious break time–we had to clean up our classroom first. The sad part is, it was finally only…me, fighting for my class. I tidied up all the tables and chairs, arranged the books, pens, pencils, erasers, everything, which were so messy on the tables–I don’t know how that could happen, but I wondered why my friends could leave all their belongings so messy like that. I swept the floor, and then went out for my two or three minutes of break. Actually, it was not a break cause hey, I could only breath during that time. Like, what to do when you’re doing your two minutes of break.

In short, my class won the best classroom ever, all the weeks, and we got such an appreciation at the end of the year. I was really happy and proud of myself, but not of my friends. They didn’t help me. I like to do things alone, but when it’s about a collective purpose, I expect initiative from any other members. And when it didn’t happen the way I expected, back then, I say back then, I could be the most silent person to them. I hate that kind of situation when all people cheering up for something they didn’t put any contribution to.

That was one example of how perfectionist I was and how it could make my class won the best classroom of the year. No tinniest detail I missed from doing that. I wanted my class to be perfect. I wanted all my friends to do the same things with me and it affected my mood and my attitude towards them when they didn’t do the things I expected.

I’d like to tell you guys my another perfectionism thingy but I bet you won’t hear it cause it’s kind of… freak, so I better stop.

But yeah, my perfectionist side grew up constantly until I listened to that song. Actually, not only that part, but also the whole lyric.

No one is perfect. It’s like the lamest quote we might have ever heard. But it’s true. You can’t find someone perfect on earth. For example, if you find a guy who can play all the music instruments, and you think it’s perfect, but you are wrong. He doesn’t like you, that makes him not perfect. LOL.

Ok sorry.

Yep, since all men have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, forget about perfect men or women, friends. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Hugh Jackman may have the best body ever or the best voice ever, but he also has weaknesses. Maybe he can’t play a recorder like me. Hm. Not significant I know. Bye.

But my point is, we, human, live in our sinned body in our sinned world. As long as we still face human too, we can’t expect anyone to be perfect. Yesterday I listened to Lisa Bevere’s preach in a church. She said that, “if you’re having a relationship now, or you’re a married couple right now, and you have the list of things that your man/woman has to change, forget it.” We can’t change people. We really cannot. If we want to see the good change from our partner, pray for them, and do our part wisely. Let them see God’s love through us.

Because what? For God so loved the world, He gave His only Son, to die on calvary’s tree from sin to set us free. And that’s what makes each of us special; He loves us first.

Because we’re the image of God. That’s what makes us special in our own way. Our imperfect selves are loved by the Creator. Nothing could be more wonderful than this.

And that’s how I learn to see the good in everyone. I am the one who is easily to point-out someone’s weaknesses, so I pray to God to humble myself under His mighty hand, and make me realize that me too, have many weaknesses. I need to see the good in everyone; that our Father creates us with no mistakes. We’re fearfully and wonderfully made. I don’t have to be bothered when something and someone doesn’t meet my so-called standard, because no one, nothing is perfect. All I can do is pray for it, do my part wisely. If it’s possible, let’s talk about each other’s expectation list, lol, in a mature way, in the love of God.

Because, no one is perfect, but everyone is special.

Viewing M2M Song from Another Viewpoint

Just heard a song played in a public transportation when I got back from a place. The title is “Don’t Say You Love Me”, sang by M2M. Actually, I just heard the chorus part of this song which sounded like this, “Don’t say you love me, you don’t even know me. If you really want me, then give me some time”. It was kinda slapping me. Lol. I don’t wanna talk about this, so let’s just move on to the points I want to share to you all.

This song originally talks about someone who is annoyed by the move another person made. She thinks that it’s just too fast to be true, for him to say that he loves her. Why? Because ‘he doesn’t even know her’. It’s kind of funny, at first, because I reflected it to myself. But then, I realized something. Why doesn’t she like being told that she is loved just because he doesn’t even know her?

I think.. it’s true. How can you say you love someone you just met? What is your basic thinking? Love is not just a word. Like John Mayer said, love is a verb. Love requires us to do something out of our comfort zone. Love means being self-less.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

For example, how can you be patient to someone whom you just got introduced by a friend? Have you really known whether you’re ready or not to be in patience with him/her all day long? It is a long journey, dear. Don’t say you love her when you’re just able to wait for her doing some make-up before you both are about to date. You don’t even know her.

I’d like to put my analyzing result about all of those love-verbs, but I have to do some kind of preparation before, so I will post it another day. I just want to say that… yes, love shouldn’t be said without understanding. Saying it means you’re ready to do those verbs. That’s why, let’s give it some time, to know each other. To know what kind of person you’re going to love. To ask yourself, ‘Am I ready to love her/him?’

Don’t sale the word ‘love’. It is not merely a word. It’s true that only God who truly loves us. Because He knows us so well. He knows our thoughts, our desires, our hearts. He deeply knows our strengths and weaknesses. He even knows our every single hair. He is ready to love us for He Himself, is love.

So, that’s how we being reminded to ask Him first about anyone we’re going to love. To ask Him, “Father, open my eyes wider to know him/her.”, “Father, I pray to hear her/his heart.”, “Father, am I ready to love this kind of person?” Or even… “Father, let me feel Your love more of each day so I can love this person the way You love me.”

I know, we’re loved to love too, so why thinking too much about this love word? But… have you ever experienced that loving people is not as easy as it sounds? Like… what if you have to face the ones that hurt you the most, then you remember that you have to love them? It’s hard, isn’t it? That’s why… do love with understanding. Love, and don’t bother, even if they don’t ‘love’ you back.

At the end, it’s all because love never fails.